Archive for July, 2012

PostHeaderIcon My little bleeding finger

I was making lunch for my children this afternoon and while trying to open a bottle of this Oriental sauce with a bottle opener, I poked my right ring finger pretty deep causing it to bleed profusely. My 6 year old sees me trying to run cold water over it and then clamp it with a paper towel so she alerts her older sister and runs to our medicine cabinet to pull out some bandages. In a matter of minutes, we have several different bandage sizes, antibacterial spray, and some other stuff around me. I’m asked to sit while my 9 year old Googles “first aid for a deep cut,” announces that we need gauze, so she runs and gets some, and then we have the most efficient teamwork of junior paramedics on display.

I am now a well bandaged mother who got some real loving! Moments like these make me shed some tears of gratitude because nothing means more to a parent than knowing that the purity of your love was received and returned even without asking. It isn’t about the cut but the care I received, the genuineness of their concern and their words of comfort. To see the expressions on their face that today was their turn to take care of mommy was priceless.

I like to make a big deal of these events because they may seem small but in the bigger picture of life, are what add the sunshine and smiles.

PostHeaderIcon The relationship between will and energy

I’m sure you’ll agree that there are days when you wish you could be left alone on your favorite recliner with just your own thoughts and no other sounds around you. But then your little girl calls you for the 15th time in one hour because she can’t take the bowl of watermelon out of the fridge. You’re about to release a pellet of angry words but you control yourself because you know they won’t take you anywhere.

Kids need attention and care, and some days, a great deal of it. You know what, it’s alright.

Even today I remember when I’d trouble my mother for something at an odd hour and she’d happily (or so it seemed to me) oblige. I cherish the feeling of confidence I had in her. Who else would I ask? I know we have to establish a good balance and not do “everything” for our children, especially the things they can do for themselves. But there shouldn’t be too many black and white rules. I never want my child to feel that she isn’t a priority in my life. And more so, that I lack energy and enthusiasm, because I don’t. I am blessed to have children and I need them to know that. Again, it isn’t always necessary to “do” things for someone to let them know how you feel about them but our attitude transfers the vibes over to the other person.

I know I’m guilty sometimes for letting my tired emotions come in the way of my happy spirit, but I choose to correct myself. I need to set the right example, the right atmosphere in my home and always be the “go-to” person for my children. I feel the energy we have as parents comes from within us and emanates from our will to perform as parents. It’s a joyous journey and while there will always be those moments where you want total seclusion, it does get lonely after a while.