Sour Patch Kids is a soft and chewy candy coated with sour sugar. I can finish an 8oz packet all by myself if I’m reading a book, watching a movie or even writing. A few days ago, my little daughter had me buy some and politely asked us all if we’d like a few. She and I love sweets so I knew how hard it was for her to even ask. While her dad and sister refused, I extended my hand out to her and she placed a single piece of that candy on it.
A few seconds later, I was begging for more, and each time, I felt her work harder and harder on her frustration. She’s been taught to share and sharing with mama is supposed to be special. But I bet she was wondering why mama didn’t realize that it was her candy and seriously, mothers are meant to have more control over their cravings.
Later, I asked her what she thought because I always do that. I like to talk to my children and get their perspective on a seemingly worthless issue. Not too long ago, I found out that what may seem like a small thing to me, is big for them and like us older people, they seek respect as well. So, she told me that I needed to learn how to share and that I was being greedy. Then she said, “mama, greedy means to want more that you really need.”
I agreed. My insatiable desire for that candy revealed a side of me to my 6 year old that I am fully aware of but believe is hidden from others. I promised her that I would change myself so I can be like her, which made her smile and give me a big hug and say, “it’s OK mama, you’re still pretty awesome and I love you.”